Sunday, June 16, 2019

Making Father's Day All About Him :)






Happy Father's Day to all of the Dad's Out there.

From Father's Day 2017

It's Father's Day and DC's Dad just came home last week from his Fall and Winter in Florida. This will only be the second time DC has seen him since he came home (maybe the 3rd?).

Before DC left for his Dad's he kept repeating, "I have to ask him" - which always means he has something he wants to do in mind. 

Me: What do you have to ask Dad? I already told you that he is taking you to visit Grandma and Grandpa because it is Father's Day.
DC: Go to the bookstore.
Me: No, I don't think so. It's Father's Day and you have to do what Dad wants to do.
DC: Go to Texas Roadhouse (the gift card he had picked out for his Dad was of course all about DC as well).
Me: The card does not mean you are going there today.
DC: (Looking a little shocked that this was not all about him)
But I want - I have to ask HIM
Me: I'm sure you are going to Grandma and Grandpa's. It is Father's Day and you have to do what Dad wants, not what DC wants.
DC: (not looking very thrilled about the conversation) "What Dad wants".....
Now if this set of rules would work on Mother's Day.......... that'd be great.


Happy Father's Day!

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Wednesday, April 10, 2019

Just a Little Story about Coats and Jackets







DC has a jacket from his Winter Guard team that he LOVES. He insists on wearing it everywhere. He also has the newer version of the jacket which he likes but it does not come close to the older version; windbreaker, lined with hood. The thing is OLD and is falling apart. Since he won't give it up and they don't order this type anymore, I found some sort or repair patch for the giant hole along the hood line... 
I told him I was going to fix it and he needed to leave it alone for two days while the patch set. No Problem..
This morning I told him he could wear his jacket again.
"I don't want to wear it"
sigh..... Did I ruin it by fixing it?
I can't get an answer.
#AwarenessMonth  - FaceBook Status 4/10/19


Later:

Coat/Jacket Update:
DC's refusal to wear his favorite Winter Guard Jacket was due to the expectation of it being cold out (it isn't) and wearing his other Jacket./Coat obsession... The Dreaded Brown Corduroy Jacket. 
Let me tell you about THIS jacket:
It is OLD. It is ratty looking. The lining no longer looks clean after washing. He Loves it. It is his in-between season coat. It is warm enough for mild winter days and the colder part of spring and fall.
Years ago DC had a brown corduroy jacket that he was very attached to. He was getting small and a little worse for wear, but I could not get him to part with it.
One day about 8 years ago, he went out for the day with his friend BB and BB's mother. DC left the jacket where ever they were. I was happy, but BB's mother insisted on replacing it. I told her that I was glad it was gone, but she insisted and 8 years later, I am still trying to get him to give it up.
So I did not "ruin" his Winter Guard Coat by fixing it - he just has something else in mind.
The Brown Coat is going away for the season and he opted happily for his Winter Guard coat.
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Saturday, January 5, 2019

Snowvee, Miss Snap, Teacher, Good Time ..... Anyone?



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Okay. Help! 

DC is looking up something on YouTube.

He asked me how to spell what sounds like “snowvee” (apparently a character). 

Usually if I can’t understand the character’s name to be able to spell it for him, he can come up with something else to help. 

What I have:

Snowvee (sounds like)

Miss Snap (or Slap or something that sounds like either or both)

Good time 

Grandmothers old house (which means that is where he used to watch it - so it’s been 10 years or more - could be as long ago as 25 years) 

(Yes, I tried googling all of the above)

My mother can remember it vaguely but not the name or characters, but she does think that it was about a teacher.

Anybody????

#ThisIsSerious 
#Help

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This has not been resolved.

The Number One suggestion was "The Magic School Bus" but he says, NO.

Also in the "No" pile....

Chalkzone 
Scooby 

and a bunch of others I had never heard of.

There is a Miss Snap from "Teachers" which does not fit the time frame but he said "No".

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Friday, November 30, 2018

Rudolph's Santa???






DC, while purchasing his 16th  copy of Rudolph The Red Nosed Reindeer at his favorite “away for the weekend, day after Thanksgiving store”, turned to me and said

“Santa was not a very nice man”. 

I was a little surprised by that and asked “what do you mean?”

He pointed to his Rudolph book on the counter and said again, “Santa was not a very nice man”. 

And you know what?

DC is correct.

Santa was not a very nice man in his treatment of Rudolph and Hermey, for being different.

In the end, Santa did not really learn anything and it was only because he needed their help that he decided to accept them. 

I was kind of impressed (and sad at the same time) that he recognized this.


It's funny the things we never think about in all of these old Christmas stories.

I kind of felt bad that we've always thought of these stories as classic and  "heartwarming" Christmas tales. Here we are cheering on Santa for finally coming around to common human decency.

We've come a long way over the years, not quite far enough, but here's hoping. .

#Rudolph #SantaDidNotLearnAnything #FeelingDisapointedInSanta



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Friday, November 2, 2018

Mom! I am getting very nervous about this!




The clocks go back one hour on Sunday.

This does not mean I will actually get that extra hour of sleep, but as every year, I will try to be optimistic and look forward to it until it does not happen.

One day I will be surprised and DC will sleep the extra hour.

As the days grow darker and shorter, I can predict exactly what will happen around here besides me not getting to sleep that extra hour -

Oops, I lost that optimism for a minute.

Okay, I am back.

Although DC is getting a little better at reading the clock and telling time, the clock and what time the clock reads does not have much of an effect on him as you might imagine.

He does not get upset if the clock is wrong (as he does when the calendar is not changed immediately)

He will not notice if I forget to change one (again; unlike the calendar).

He will still ride in my car, where the clock is almost always wrong.

This might lead you to believe that I am home free with the whole clock/time change.

Wrong.

Although the actual "clock"  time does not mean all that much to DC; he does have a pretty good internal clock.

It is going to get dark earlier.

He is going to notice.

He will be at the door as soon as he notices that it is getting dark way ahead of his schedule.

He will be convinced there is a storm coming.

Every day.

For weeks.

No amount of explanation ahead of time, keeps this from happening  Every . Single . Year.

No amount of explanation while he is opening and closing the door 20 times every night, will change this.

Mom! I am getting very nervous about this!

We just have to ride it out along with him waking up an hour early until he gets used to it.

I'm not a fan of the time change.

And......... Don't forget to Vote on Tuesday!

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This has been a Finish the Sentence Friday post. This week's prompt "As the days grow darker... "
Finish the Sentence Friday is hosted by Kristi at Finding Ninee  and Kenya at Sporadically Yours 

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Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Halloween - Please Be Kind #autism




DC always enjoyed the costume and candy part of Halloween, but it took years before he really understood the waking around to get said candy and years after that before he understood that he could not walk into people’s houses.

He could not understand why we were ringing the doorbell and not going in.

Halloween, now is his absolute favorite.

He has a costume for every party and another for the big day.

I don’t feel that I should have to take that all away from him because some people see him as “too old” to trick-or-treat.

Like many children and adults with autism, his interests are limited and when he really shows an interest or enjoys something out of what would normally be thought of his “comfort zone” - you better believe that we are going for it; all the way. 


Please be kind if an adult in costume comes to your door, or a child without a costume due to sensory issues.

Their parents will handle it if they try to walk into your home or don’t understand “take one piece” - Not having the ability to say “Trick-Or-Treat” is okay too......really. Don’t try to force it. 

It IS everyone’s Halloween. #Autism #Halloween

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Thursday, October 11, 2018

Tuesday is the new Monday


Never in a million years could I ever have imagined that DC would actually LIKE Unified Sports, Cross Country. 
Never.

I can't even tell you how many years he has been participating; I have to imagine it's been quite a few (Ms. "No Sense of Time" at your service)

I originally tried it with him because all of the other sports he participated in had either gone away, he aged out of or he just got bored.

He aged out of Challengers baseball at 21. Not that he was a huge fan of baseball but when he was young, there were really no other programs - sport programs or recreation in general, for him to participate in, so he played baseball for 16 years.

He really enjoyed Special Olympics Swimming and participated there for a good 10 years, if not longer but that program went away in our area.

He also participated in Special Olympics Golf, but he was too slow to play "Alternate Shot", where an athlete and a buddy pair up on the course so he participated in the "skills" program. 

10 years hitting balls on the driving range with no chance to compete on the course just got boring for him. I don't blame him.

There needs to be a level in-between "Skills" and "Alternate Shot" - just sayin'.

With nothing else to try, we decided to give Cross Country a shot. If nothing else, it would be good exercise.

Well.... he liked it and has been participating ever since.

This year, though.....
This year, he went from liking it to LOVING IT. So much so that he gets very upset when it gets cancelled.
Unfortunately, we've had a rainy go of it this season.



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It’s 6:00 am and this “boy” has been following me around, asking about practice (which is about 12 hours from now) and just staring at me  for the last 45 minutes. As I type this, DC is about 6 inches from my face - staring.

He woke up and started immediately. 

He won’t understand that I will not know if cross country will be cancelled for rain until later in the day.

I’m thrilled that he loves cross country as much as he does (who could have ever seen that coming?) but the downside is the anxiety about cancelling from the moment he wakes up every single Tuesday.

Tuesday seems to be our new Monday

#MondayMeltdownsHaveBeenRescheduled

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Same boat, different week (same day) - It's pouring- sigh.....
#TuesdayIsTheNewMonday #StopRainingOnTuesdays #JustStop

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So........
It's Tuesday
It's Raining
"Cross Country Practice Cancelled?" (repeat 694 times)
#StopRainingOnTuesdays #Autism #ThreeInARow#SameDayDifferentWeek #TuesdayIsTheNewMonday

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Facebook Status - October 8, 2018

Tomorrow is Tuesday and for the first time in 4 weeks there is no rain predicted.

Although he is getting so used to it raining and his practice getting cancelled that he will probably be in my face about it anyway .... fingers crossed, people!

#TuesdayIsOurNewMonday 
#StopRainingInTuesdays

Tuesday Morning - October 9, 2018

aaannnnnd....... It's Raining!
#StopRainingOnTuesdays


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Happy Tuesday!

Random Tuesdays

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It's pouring.. POURING! 

DC was ready at the door wearing his raincoat (me? no. I wasn't going outside yet).

When the car arrived, he ran out and I stood in the door as always.

I saw him flagging we to the car, which he never does. Thinking something was wrong and not wanting to waste time looking for my umbrella, I ran to the car as I was. Opening the door, DC said

"Mom! It's raining! Sorry!" 

(of course he let me stand there in the pouring rain for a little while before he came out with that)
... Happy Tuesday!

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Morning Jump-Start:
DC (eating breakfast): Mom, I feel so 'Vy-lated'. 
Me: WHAT???!!!???!!! What do you mean?
DC: I feel so 'vy-lated'
Me: What do you mean!?!?
DC: Faerie Tale Theater
(Hansel and Gretel to be exact) 
Geez....
Happy Tuesday - my heart is beating again, thank you.
                                      ~  Not that he had any idea what violated means, but hearing it come out of his mouth - unsettling, to say the least.

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Today, is DC's Monday
Mornings in General are hard, but Mondays usually do me in. 
Today was not going badly at all but waiting for his transport, I could see the mood change sweep over his face. I know it was because he wanted to write more "Princess Papers" and I did not give him enough of a heads up to put everything away..... 
Fortunately, even with the angry eyes, there wasn't a big outburst; but he was agitated. 
I am sure that the driver at this point is able to tell his mood by the way he walks out to the car when it arrives.
When he turns around to look at me BEFORE he gets in the car, I know he's coming back to the door to me to stim about whatever is bothering him. Some mornings he comes back more than once.
Today he got to the car door, turned to look at me and stomped back to me still standing in the doorway - angry eyes and all. I opened the door and he yelled angrily "Not 'Crappy" anymore!!!" (crabby) and stomped back to the car.
Not very believable, I must say.... but..... it didn't go on forever and he went right back to the car, so I am putting a mark in the "win" column. Happy Monday (Tuesday)!

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Tuesdays are really just Mondays all over again..