Friday, August 18, 2017

DC's Restaurant Stories & Etiquette

DC loves nothing more than going "out to eat". 

As he will tell you himself, he usually does a "good job".

Below are a few Facebook statuses on eating out with DC.


At the restaurant on the way home yesterday..

Waiter: Hello, My Name is "Blank". I'll be your server today. 

Can I start you off with some drinks?

DC: Hello there, I burped!

One of those out of the clear blue sky statements: 
DC: DC will open a restaurant of my own
Me: Really? What will be on the menu?
DC: pizza and wings and garlic bread
(I can't believe he won't have burgers on his menu!)


No Turkey Legs at the carving station but the restaurant walls lined with books help ease the pain 


We went out to dinner earlier tonight. 
DC: "Mom, I did a good job at eating
As if eating is ever a big concern....



Waitress: how do you want your burger
DC: Good!

Going to have lunch today with DC at his "job". He's excited because he knows he gets to have a cheeseburger....... should I be upset that I don't rate as highly as a cheeseburger?

CODE RED!!!! Cheesecake Factory ran out of .... Wait for it.... CHICKEN WINGS!


We went out to dinner tonight and as he does - DC, as soon as he is finished announced that he had to use the restroom.
Now, he does this all of the time. He's done eating and has nothing left to do. It does not matter if anyone else is still eating. He sees a restroom and he has to use it. Period.
Doug was just about finished eating so I asked DC if he could wait a few minutes until Doug finished, so his food would not be sitting there getting cold as DC spends forever in the restroom singing show tunes. He agreed and went back to editing his book. 

The SECOND Doug put down his fork, DC called the waitress over (I did not know why because I told him that since he had a whoopie pie waiting at home, he was not going to be ordering dessert).

"Excuse me! May I go to the bathroom please?" 


To add insult to injury Doug says, "His mother wouldn't let him go so I guess he figured he'd ask you."


We went to dinner last night at "Chill's" (DC-speak - Chili's).
With no discussion beforehand, he called to the waitress:

"Excuse me, Miss?"

She stops - "Yes?"

DC: "May I go to the 'restroom' please?"

I guess he decided to just skip over us entirely this time and go right to the top.

I am hoping this does not become his new thing....

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Thursday, August 10, 2017

Is it hot in here or is it just me?

It was very early in August and I could not believe that DC seemed to be getting excited about the last day of camp as if he was willing it to be over. He loves camp and I did not understand why he wanted it to end so badly.

He started saying "This week, the last day of camp? Camp is over?" on Thursday the 4th.
I told him he had the following day and next week left.

"Next week, last day of camp? Camp is over?"

Yes, You went today and you will go tomorrow then Thursday and Friday next week. Next Friday is the last day. 

I was confused because he loves camp so I tried to get him to tell me why he wanted camp to be over. Wasn't he having fun?

"Yes, DC is having fun with my friends"

So I gave him a choice...

DC would you rather to to ARC (work) or Camp?

"DC want to go to Camp, see my friends"

Do you like camp? You don't have to go if you don't like it any more.

"Yes, like camp. Fun with friends"

Let me just break here to explain that although DC understands the seasons, he cannot always tell you that July is summer or September or October is fall. Summer is HOT. Winter is COLD - so if we happen to be in Florida in January, it is summer - in his mind. He knows the seasons and the months that go with them by memory, not by understanding. They do not always make sense to him and when he is not concentrating or has something else on his mind he goes by the weather, period.

This week he started asking me about the last day of camp again and added "Summer is over".
I told him that camp would be over on Friday but summer would not be over for a few more weeks.

He looked very disappointed by that.

It was then, as he stood there staring at the air conditioner and looking forlorn about summer not ending on Friday, that I realized what was going on in his head.

Someone at camp must have mentioned the end of summer. DC got it into his head that summer was over on the last day of camp.

DC hates the air conditioner. He thought he would be getting rid of it earlier this year because he heard and believed that the end of summer THIS year would be the last day of camp.

He must have been excited thinking he would be getting a break earlier than usual. As per the conversation we had before someone mentioned camp being the end of summer - he was looking at October as the end of the air conditioning. No wonder he looked so disappointed when I told him there was still more summer ahead...

<From Facebook Status 8/1/17 (before his end of camp/summer assumption)>

I know the air conditioner bothers DC but I usually don't hear about it after the first few weeks after it goes in (it went in, in April) - Today is August 1st aka #CalendarFlipDay and after flipping all of the calendars, DC said...
DC: My 'Hair-dish-on' out in October
Me: What?
DC: 'Hair-dish-on' out at Halloween. 
Me: (wondering why he is talking about Halloween)
I don't know what you mean.
'DC: 'Hair-dish-on' FAN out at Halloween!
Me: Ohhhhhh, the Air Conditioner! October or November, okay?
DC: October
(He's hoping that the air conditioner is out by Halloween. He knows that removing the A/C is NOT a decision I make lightly or early.) I guess even though he might stop talking about it after the first few weeks after it goes in; it still bothers him.
He's looking for the light at the end of the tunnel - and even if it's two months away; he wants to know it's coming.
#WishfullThinking #IsItHotInHereOrIsItJustMe


I really do feel for him but I can't take them out early. I can't do it... I just can't:

<From Facebook Status >

I can't say "shopping for a bathing suit" is on my list of  "Seven Things I Hate About Summer" because I just don't do that..... haven't owned one in years..

Number 1-7 for me THESE DAYS are:
1. IT'S HOT! 
2. It's too hot
3. Why is it this hot?
4. I can't take this heat!
5. Holy S&%#! I am not going out there!
7. IT'S Too #$&%in' HOT!

(you can pretty much count on hearing all of the above year round from me, though)

<Facebook Status >

DC: Mom, Fan, Flapping, whoo, Mom, Flap like bird. 
(DC pointing out that my "I'm sweating to death" episodes include some of my very own "Flapping" .... Seriously, that's kind of amazing that he's made that connection...) 

<Facebook Status>

#IsItHotInHereOrIsItJustMe enough said...

<Facebook Status >

Dc wakes up in the middle of the night (yes, it's 50 degrees and yes, I have both air conditioners running at the coldest temperatures) -
DC:"Mom! The Fan is Freezing!" - from the boy who never seems affected by heat or cold. 
DC: "Mom! Turn it off!"
Me: "DC, I'm sorry but I can not do that. You will have to use another blanket"
I will do just anything for this child, except turn the AC off.


<Facebook Status>

DC just came home from his Dad's. It's 9 bazillion degrees (to me anyway) so yes I have the AC on. He just came down stairs with his long pink and mauve pajama bottoms (the same PJs that he had to have in Niagara Falls), his big Doctor Who Robe, Doctor Who slippers and a stick on mustache. Who says we lack any fashion sense? 
oh.... and the teal Cookie Monster shirt.


<Facebook Status>


I wonder where he gets that?? (A reenactment, of course) 

As you can see, this is not an issue that is new and does not look as if it will be resolved any time soon (unfortunately for the both of us).... 

I am very soon off to bed armed with ice pack, my cooling pillow and the A/C set at "ultimate freeze" ~ Have a great weekend and Happy August. Here's to looking forward to the "end of summer".

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Thursday, July 13, 2017

"Zack and Cody's Mom!"

Apparently DC's psychic abilities extend further than just knowing where the food is hidden or when I have been to the store.........

Just a few days ago I purchased tickets for the Supernatural NJ Convention. DC knows the show and met a few of the cast at the Rhode Island ComicCon a while back,  so it will not be totally boring for him and we will be able to spend one of the weekend days in New York City; his favorite place. A Win, Win situation for us (except Doug, aka *"Except This Guy" who just hates these things.  But, now that I think about it,  "Except This Guy" will find quite a lot of joy in walking around mumbling under his breath and making fun of me, so I guess it IS a Win, Win for all involved)

I did not mention this to DC, because it is not until September and as you may or may not know - I will not hear about anything else until we go. I did not even write it on the calendar for the same reason.

This morning out of the clear blue sky he yelled:

"Zack and Cody's Mother"

Now, it is not really odd for him to spout random things at me out of the clear blue sky, but usually it is about a princess or a movie line.

First I thought he was talking about meeting my friend "Jenni-FAR" and her boys, one of whom is named Zack. He does call them Zack and Cody each time he mentions them before he remembers that Zack's brother is not named Cody.

Me: What about Zack and Cody?
DC: The Suite Life of Zack and Cody. Go to New York City to do DC stuff.

Going to New York to do DC stuff...... hmmmmm

Last year we went to New York for StarTrek Missions and although he had a good time, he was disappointed at being in New York (did I mention.. his favorite place) and not walking around the city to visit his favorite places.
Because of that, we promised to take him back to New York another time to do "DC stuff" - that was exactly what I called it.

We did take him back there a few weeks later to do his "DC stuff", with a quick detour at the Star Fleet Experience at the Intrepid.

I know. It was supposed to be DC's day but it was there, people! If you know me, you know that I am not passing it up.

Anyway, given all of the above information I realized that somehow, some way he knew we were going. How? I do not know know!

Before thinking it through, I told him that we were going to the "Don't You Cry No More" Comic-Con in September and that Zack and Cody's mother is scheduled to be there. If we can find her, maybe he will get to meet her.

Excited? YES!

At this point, I should really know better. I am now the one who will be stressed out until then hoping she does not cancel or that we won't be able to find her there.

Twice before I told him about people that he was going to meet ahead of time and after stressing about why I decided to tell him ahead of time, he was able to meet both with no problems.

So here's hoping that it works out this time as well...

I am going to have to go through the list of attendees to find someone I can relate to something Disney-esk for him as a back up plan.

Fingers Crossed!

*Except This Guy - At the Grease Sing-a-long

*Except This Guy - Star Trek Missions

*Except This Guy - Shore Leave - Baltimore

Header Photo Credit: By Jennife Creative Commons ShareAlike1r (The Suite Life Taping) 
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Friday, June 30, 2017

That means?

(Random Facebook posts pertaining to "That Means?")

DC asks "That Means?" often, when he is reading. Most of the time he already knows what "that" means and other times I find myself going on and on trying to find the easiest explanation, to the point that I have to stop and wonder how he's learned what anything means with me being the one doing the explaining.

From Facebook Statuses at Take Another Step


A few days ago DC somehow figured out from one of his books that the word “Sympathy” in a way means “sorry”. So on that day, DC was “in sympathy” for sneaking chips.

From Blog Post - Happy? Sorry?

********* Then there was that time when I blurted out a profanity while driving (which to be honest, is really nothing new).
DC repeated it, loudly and asked "That means?" 

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Wednesday, June 21, 2017

The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow #Autism #Storms

Over the last few years, one of the newer developments in DC's storm perseveration is having to watch and yell "Storm Go Away".  It used to be he would get in storm position on the couch with his book or his iPad (this is not to say that he actually read or watched anything - he was busy scripting about the storm, over and over and over again, but the intent was there). 

Facebook From Facebook Statuses May 31, 2017
"He's starting to get anxious about the thunder (that I don't even hear yet). He's been to every window and door in the house and then broke into song. 
( I just now heard the first boom of thunder and "Vickie!!! COME HERE!!!) #TheSunWillComeOutTomorrow "


Yesterday I switched the channel to news after DC left for work for the 10 minutes I had before I had to leave for work. I forgot to switch it back when I shut the TV off.

When we got home, and switched the TV on, DC who wasn't even in the room... started.

"Mom! Change the channel!"
Pointing and staring
"Change the channel"

It just so happened that there was something on that I wanted to see so I told him I would change it in a minute.....

More pointing, staring and standing right in front of it. "No News! Change the Channel!"
And even more pointing and staring....

We had been out at a camp meeting so it was close to 8 pm. I told him he needed to go up and take a shower. He went upstairs. I got the water to the correct temp for him and I was in my room folding clothes (I still stand around close to the bathroom the whole time he is in the shower in case of a seizure).

He took his shower, got out and I heard him "Mom, DC is very nervous" 

I had forgotten about the TV and really could not even hear it upstairs.

What are you nervous about?

"Change the channel! No news! No 'Wea-ver'"

Me: Okay, I am going to change the channel right now.

Those of you that are new here probably do not know that I am not allowed to watch the news without bringing about total anxiety.. In DC's mind, the news means the weather and watching the weather can only bring a storm!

I just got home from work today and it is looking pretty shaky outside. It's been so hot, I am sure whatever is coming will include Thunder and Lightning ......

This will not be any fun at all because last night's anxiety was NOTHING compared to what is coming.
And yes, I do understand now that it will be all my fault for turning on the news yesterday...... Completely my fault...

#ItsAllMyFault #NoStormToday #WhatsMySuperPower

From FB Statuses 6/13/2017

On Monday night we had a pretty good storm here, complete with wind, torrential rain, thunder and lightning.
DC, in-between yelling for me and telling me he was "Nervous", "Scared" and the many other things he will repeat over and over again, started the standing in the doorway and running to the window routine.
The singing began; "Tomorrow", of course.... but then surprisingly enough, he went into "Here Comes the Sun". 
I was shocked because DC really does not know all that many songs that are not based in Disney. 
Me: DC, how do you know that song?
DC: (stops singing)The Parent Trap (resumes singing)

Even in the midst of a storm, he can still come up with something relating to Disney.

It was nice to switch things up a bit....

That would be the Lindsay Lohan remake for those of you who are not versed in all things Disney.

More about the 'wea-ver' 

The Struggle is Real - More about the 'Wea-ver"


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Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Two years ago today..... #Seizures

A not-so-happy memory

Face Book Memory - Two years ago today. 

Three hours after posting the status above, DC had his first seizure in the hotel lobby. 

Thankfully the staff (and Doug) knew what was going on as while he was seizing upright, I did not know what was happening, until he was on the floor and continued seizing for more than 4 minutes.

Four minutes is an eternity when you are helplessly watching as your child seizes.

Seven weeks later he would have another of the same length at camp. 

The only thing worse than witnessing your child having a seizure of this magnitude, is not being there with him when it happens.....

He is on medication now and so far, so good.

Even though I know there is no schedule or rhyme or reason, I am still feeling a bit of anxiety today...

Facebook Statuses 6/14/17

"He is on medication now and so far, so good."

This is not to say that I still do not stand right outside the bathroom door when he is in the shower just in case.

This is not to say that the padding and corner guards all over the furniture have been removed (some are quite worn in some spots, but they have not been removed.

This is not to say that he does not wear a protective baseball hat to work every day.

This is not to say that I do not remind him NOT to lock the door (after many years of teaching him to lock the door) in a public restroom so I can get in if there is a problem.

This is not to say that I do not panic a bit when he says something odd or not like him or when he is overly happy for any length of time.

This is not to say that I still don't panic when my phone rings when we are not together.

This is not to say that I have not thought about it every . single . day since.

This is not to say that I don't know that medication works until it doesn't.....

Other Posts:

In an effort not to drive my son off the deep end…..

Things I have learned, things I have noticed and things that might just be in my own head

The Accessories

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Saturday, June 3, 2017

The Phone and The Routine

Memories of the New Phone

Did not think that this would go well in any way, shape or form. I started him out with a Tracfone because I was sure he would lose it or break it.... Once again, he surprised me. He did not lose it, he did not break it and he remembered to take it with him every day (in his pocket - I might add. He hates to have anything in his pockets!) - AND He remembered to call me every day when he was leaving school. Six years later, he still "works from a script" when he calls and the spontaneous phone calls are still not there; but - the bottom line is that HE DID IT! (FB Memories - 6 years ago today)

FB Statuses 6/10/17

Reporting to Mom
DC attends an after camp program once a week on Tuesday nights. The program also runs on Thursday nights but it's difficult getting him there. 
Both DC and *Salli were invited to attend Thursday night this week. It is Christmas week at the program. They had decorated the tree on Tuesday night and the director wanted them to be there for Christmas dinner on Thursday. 
I had some appointments early in the day and since Thursday is the day I have to leave work early to be home for his transportation, it didn't make sense to go in, so I scheduled the day off. This worked out perfectly because I could go and pick up DC at his "job" and drive him to camp.
DC calls me everyday when his transport arrives to pick him up at work and again when he gets home (Mrs H is already there). He is so programmed to do this that there have been times when he has called me to tell me he was home while I was in the next room.
We were almost at camp when DC pulled out his phone. I didn't think much of it. I thought he was going to look at his friend's pictures on Facebook.
Then my phone rang:
Me: Hello
DC: Hello Mom, I am going to camp nowwwwww.
Me: I know! I'm right here next to you!
DC: Great! (Pause) *Salli's mother *Tonya will pick me up.
Me: Yes, Salli's Mom will pick you up.
DC: Mom will be home. (I'm not allowed to go anywhere in his mind, when he is not home. He likes to make sure I am staying home and will be home when he gets back)
Me: yes I will be home.
DC: Goodbye Mom. See you later.
Me: I'm right here.
DC: see you later!
He hangs up.

FB Statuses 6/29/2016

Things I should know by now (Ornament Hunting - Clues)

Ornament #2 in the 2015 ornament hunt. The clue: "Oh no! It's time to call the Dr." - After first telling me he was calling 911 (yikes, I really have to think more about the clues I'm giving) - he went to the phone and found the Dr. 911, not necessary...

FB Statuses 12/12/2015

I am home 'again'

Phone Rings:
DC: Hi Mom, I am home.
Me: Hi, DC. Is Mrs. H there yet? (I knew she wasn't, but would be there in seconds - but still I like to try to get the correct replies)
DC: No.
Me: Did you lock the door?
DC: Yes
Me: Did you lock the door?
DC: No.
Me: Please go and lock the door. You are supposed to lock the door as soon as you come home. Don't hang up!
DC: Okay (He hangs up).
and second later the phone rings
DC: Hi Mom, I am home again!

FB Status 4/16/2015  (Before Seizures when he was trained (years and years of training) to be able to be home for 10 minutes before his aide arrived)

I Sorry Steve.
So DC was having a "moment" for reasons that I just don't really know, when his Best Buddy, Steve called. DC, of course is always happy to hear from Steve but he was just as I said, having a moment.
After I talked to Steve and hung up, I told DC that he had been very rude.
First he went back to the phone picked it up and said "I'm sorry Steve" - I told him that Steve wasn't there anymore.
Next DC presented me with this:
(yes, I did text it to Steve)

FB Statuses 2/26/17

Other Posts on the Subject:

Don't forget to call Mom!

Hey! That's not in the Script!


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